06. ABOUT PSYCHOLOGY (2)

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QUAND TU DORS
Dalida

SYMPHONIE No 3 - Poco Allegretto (3)
Johannes Brahms

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Lara Fabian



ADAGIO D’ALBINONI
Tomaso Albinoni / Remo Giazotto

05. ABOUT PSYCHOLOGY (1)

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Is  psychology more practical than spirituality? Nothing is more practical than spirituality. What can the poor psychologist do? He can only relieve the pressure. I'm a psychologist myself, and I practice psychotherapy, but you know I have this great conflict within me when I have to choose sometimes between psychology and spirituality. I wonder if that makes sense to anybody here. It didn't make sense to me for many years.

All right, I'll explain that. I'll explain that. You know, it didn't make sense to me for many years until I suddenly discovered that people have to suffer enough emotionally before they’re ready to wake up; and what I was doing as a psycchotherapist was easing the suffering. People have to suffer enough in a relationship so that they get disillusioned with all relationships. Isn't that a terrible thing to think? They've got to suffer enough in a relationship before they wake up and say, "I'm sick of it! There must be another way of living than depending on another human being." And what was I doing as a psychotherapist? They were coming to me with their relationship problems, with their communication problems, etc., and sometimes that was a help. And sometimes, I'm sorry to say, it wasn't, because it kept them asleep. Maybe they should suffered a little more. Maybe they ought to touch rock bottom before they say, "I'm sick of it all. " It's only when you're sick of your sickness that you'll get out of it. Most people, they go to a psychiatrist or a psychologist to get relief. To get belief.

Now's the story of little Johnny who was mentelly... they said he was mentally retarded. The poor kid. But evidently he wasn't, as you'll learn from this story I’m going to tell you. Because he goes to modeling class in his school for special children and he gets clastocin (? piece of putty) and he's modeling it. He takes a little lump of clastocin and goes to a corner of the room and he's playing with it. So the teacher goes up to him and says, "Hi, Johnny." And Johnny says, "Hi." And she says, "What's you've got in your hand?" And Johnny says, "This is a lump of cow dung." She says "What are you making out of it?" He says, "I'm making a teacher."

The teacher thought, "Little Johnny has regressed." She saw the principal, who was passing by the corridor, and she says, "Johnny has regressed."

So the principal goes up to Johnny and says, "Hi, son." And Johnny says, "Hi." "What do you have in your hand?" And he says, "A lump of cow dung." "So what are you making out of it?" And he says, "A principal."

Well, the principal thinks that this is a case for the school psychologist. "Send for the psychologist!"

The psychologist is a clever guy. He goes up and says, "Hi." And Johnny says, "Hi." He says, "I know what you've got in your hand." "What?" "A lump cow...

04. ON WANTING HAPPINESS



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What was I saying? We we’re saying: we don't want to be happy. We want other things. Or let's put it more accurately: We don't want to be unconditionally happy. I'm ready to be happy provided I have this and that and the other thing. You know what we’re really saying? We’re saying  "You are my happiness” to our friend or to our God or to anything. "You are my happiness. If I don't get you, I refuse to be happy." And it's so important to understand that. We cannot imagine being happy without all those things. That's pretty accurate. And that’s the reason why we don’t want it; because we cannot conceive of the fact that we would be happy without all of those things. We’ve placed our happiness... we've been taught to place our happiness in all of those things.

So that's the first thing we need to do if we want to come awake, which is the same thing as saying: if we want to love, if we want freedom, if we want joy and peace and spirituality. In that sense, spirituality is the most practical thing in the whole wide world. I challenge anyone to think of anything more practical than spirituality as I have defined it -- not piety, not devotion, not religion, not worship. Spirituality! -- waking up, wake up! Look at the heartache everywhere, look at the loneliness, look at the fear, the confusion, the conflicts in the hearts of people, inner conflict, outer conflict.

Suppose somebody gave you a way of getting rid of all of that? Suppose somebody gave you a way of stopping that tremendous drainage of energy, of health, of emotion that come from these conflicts and confusion. Would you want that? Suppose somebody showed us a way where we would truly love one another, and be at peace and love. Can you think of anything more practical than that? But still you have people thinking that big business is more practical, or politics is more practical, or science is more practical. What's the earthly use - the earthly use - of putting a man on the moon when we cannot live on the earth?

ON THE PROPER KIND OF SELFISHNESS

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ON WAKING UP - Anthony de Mello

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Spirituality means waking up. Most people, even though they don't know it, are asleep. They're born asleep, they live asleep, they marry in their sleep, they breed children in their sleep, they die in their sleep without ever waking up. They never understand the loveliness and the beauty of this thing that we call human existence. You know, all mystics - Catholic, Christian, non-Christian, they are all unanimous, no matter what their theology, no matter what their religion - they are all unanimous on one thing, and that one thing is: all is well, all is well. Everything is a mess, and all is well. Strange paradox. But, tragically, most people never get to see that, they never get to see that all is well, because they are asleep. They are in a nightmare.

In talking about sleeping reminds me: last year on Spanish television I saw a nice little story about this elderly gentleman who knocked at the door of his son who was asleep . He said "Jaime, wake up!" And Jaime said, "I don't want to get up, Papa." And the old man said "Get up, you’ve got to go to school." Jaime said, "I don't want to go to school." "Why not?" said the old man. "Because, first, it's so dull; second, the kids all tease me; and third, I hate school." So the old man said "I am going to give you three reasons why you must go to school. First, because it is your duty; second, because you are forty-five years old, and third, because you are the headmaster." Wake up, wake up! You've grown up. You're too big to be asleep. Wake up! Stop playing with your toys.

Most people tell you that they want to get out of kindergarten, but don't believe them. Don't believe them! All they want for you to do is to mend their broken toys. "Give me back my wife. Give me back my job. Give me back my money. Give me back my reputation, my success." That is what they want; they want their toys repaired. That's all. Now, even the best psychologist will tell you that, they will tell you people don't really want to be cured. What they want is relief. A cure is painful..

Waking up is unpleasant, you know. You are nice and comfortable in bed. And at least, as long as you are asleep, it's irritating to be woken up. That's the reason why I told you the wise guru will not attempt to wake people up. I hope I'm going to be wise these days and make no attempt whatsoever to wake you up if you are asleep. None of my business. My business is to do my thing, to dance my dance. If you profit from it, fine; if you don't, too bad! As the Arabs say, "The nature of the rain is the same, but it grows thorns in the marshes and flowers in the garden”